Now it is my time!

I've always been good. Now it's my time!

This whole series has been about our relationship with our parents —
but really, it’s about all the people who never learned to talk honestly about their emotions.
Those who couldn’t stay open to your needs or insights.
Who wore masks to avoid facing their own pain.

It’s a deep, complex topic.
But once you truly accept that your parents won’t change, something shifts:
you finally have space to ask — how can I give myself what I need?

In her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Dr. Lindsay Gibson describes three key steps to healing and freedom.

1. Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect — not to create distance, but to protect your energy.

If you were never allowed to say no or to express anger, this might be your biggest challenge.
Questions may arise: Will they still like me? What if they get angry?

Sometimes, setting a boundary simply means ending a conversation that’s full of blame or criticism.
You choose clarity and peace over getting caught in the drama.

2. Find Safe Relationships

You don’t have to go through this alone.
Healing happens in connection — with people who feel safe, where you can be completely yourself.
That might be a friend, a partner, or a chosen family.

If you tend to internalize, ask yourself:
What do I really need in this relationship? What do I long for?

Instead of focusing only on others, allow your own needs and wishes to take up space.
That’s not selfish — it’s self-honouring.

3. Re-parent Yourself

If you didn’t get the love or support you needed as a child, you now have the chance to offer it to yourself.
Be gentle. Be kind. Speak to yourself the way you wish someone had spoken to you.

Self-care isn’t a luxury — it’s essential. Especially for internalizers.

Try saying this to yourself each day:

“You are safe. You are good just as you are. I am here for you.”

Your past will always be part of you — but it doesn’t have to define you.
When you engage in this process, you begin to live from your True Self: connected, free, and true to who you really are.
With ups and downs, yes — but more honest, more joyful, more you.

If you recognise yourself in this process, what do you need most right now?
Which step feels most challenging — setting boundaries, finding safe relationships, or re-parenting yourself?

You don’t have to do this alone.
Sometimes, having someone by your side helps you see through the old patterns and create space for who you truly are.

You’re welcome. Always.

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