The Key from Fear to Love
In his book series "An Unusual Conversation with God," Neale Donald Walsch shows that living from love isn't a choice you make all at once.
The two previous Snippets were about looking at fear and love differently. According to him, the only two fundamental feelings exist. He indicates that it has to do with feeling safe, that your nervous system feels safe, and therefore you do too.
Moving from fear to love is a gradual shift that you notice in the small, everyday moments.
You might often think that change requires discipline.
To try even harder.
To correct and adapt yourself.
But in this case, that's actually counterproductive.
Because fear is an automatic pattern of your nervous system.
And automatic patterns cannot be resolved with willpower.
They require awareness.
Awareness is the moment when you notice:
- Oh, here I'm saying yes while I feel no.
- Oh, here I'm going faster than is good for me.
- Oh, here I'm taking responsibility that isn't mine.
- Oh, here I'm adapting to maintain a good atmosphere.
That moment of recognizing what you're doing, what's happening, that's what matters.
That's crucial.
Because at that moment, something new happens in your inner system.
You don't have to do it differently right away.
You don't have to do it right right away.
Simply seeing, recognizing, gives your nervous system a new experience:
- I am aware.
- I am present.
- I no longer have to automatically abandon myself.
And very slowly, almost unnoticed, space arises there.
Space to not adapt for once.
Space to stay with what you feel.
Space to experience safety within yourself.
Space to make a choice and perhaps do things differently.
That's what I wish for you. If you need help with that, know that I'm here for you!
"It's time to listen to yourself."
Here are the links to the previous parts of this series: part 1 and part 2.
